hello everyone, today after a very long period of time i decided to share some self learned life lesson with you. I have had my share of experiences and the best way to is to share em so that everyone of you would benefit. trust me this will save you from a collapse of friendship, relationship, business partnership and a lot of energy as well.
a self control check. (being human)
we have to keep a constant check on our self. We need to stop, we need to pause and we need to reflect on our self, we seriously need to think before any act so that we are in complete control of ourselves, our thoughts, our emotions and our responses and specially reactions.
I have realized that its just very easy to blame ourselves and to justify an unpleasant, rude attitude and behavior with excuses of being tired, stressed, overworked at time we blast out our frustrations and irritations out on our family, friends, colleagues or even our special loved ones. Which unfortunately results in a very harsh, unforgiving, withdrawn and cold tone of our emotions rather than loving, open, warm caring and embracing.
We seriously need to take time each day to generate, build, sustain our core verbal and non-verbal responses and reactions that will allow us to enhance and build our capacity to a greater, calmer kinder and much more compassionate, peaceful and loving person for not only our special loved ones but for everyone around us. This is not a one time battle with self, its a life long war that we need to win over and over again each and everyday and every single moment.
after acting out of anger, frustration, irritation and rage, i have been reflecting on my self for what excuse i had been making and allowing others to be brunt of my own bad attitude or even worse, my bad behavior, the realization and decision is plain and simple that no excuse is worth the cost of emotional vomiting in public or in my extreme private specially on those i love. The best is to give space and time, we are all humans we do make mistakes, our mistake approves of us being humans.
friends! i have done a great deal of hard work and the heart work for learning which still is a work under progress, to uplift and hold myself to a higher standard, raising the bar on my own self, my attitude and my behavior for my friends, colleagues, family and the special loved ones who really deserve this.
in the end a little something which might make some sense.
we are from each other
i have tried and i have failed, and then only i have learned and improved for the way to do things, now i know what to look out and what to not in future so i don’t trip over those things again.
at times i have rushed faster and very faster, and have missed those turns again and have to go back for another try, but now i have known those signs to look out for so that i keep moving in the right direction.
i have been alone and have been walking like this for a very long time, as now i have find someone on the same path and we agreed and decided to run with each other and NOT against each other. I have shared all of my ups and downs, missed signs/turns and lessons so that you can benefit from my mistakes, for sure you have exposed all of your ups and down, missed signs and great opportunities so i can learn from them.
i am sure together, we can run at the speed of light, confidently and straighter like a laser beam to the place we want to go.